Maria’s husband used to call her useless, incompetent, pathetic, fat, bad mother, inept, clumsy, and more. It did not matter what she did. Her actions were never enough.After her husband left her for another woman, Maria struggled to find her own identity, as it was stolen from her.
Chloé decided that the constant fights between her and her husband, the verbal aggressions, and emotional abuse, was an unhealthy living situation to raise her children. So, after years of trying, she filed for divorce and left her husband.After leaving her husband, her mother told her she was a bad mother for separating her children from their father. Since then, Chloé has always continued to question her choices, as her mother’s words left a mark that she hasn’t been able to leave behind.
Ross was thirteen when her adoptive father told her, “don’t call me dad because I am not your father.” He was angry when he said those words to her. Upon hearing those words, something broke inside of her. She was hurt badly, as she was the only father she knew. After her father’s anger wore away, he apologized profusely, but the emotional damage was already done. She forgave him. But she was never able to forget what happened or call him dad once again.
Think about your emotions like titanium and glass simultaneously. Emotions can give you all the strength you need to fight, but when broken, it can never be fixed, leaving behind a crack that you will always be able to see, feel, and remember.
While breaking glass with frequency sounds might take a lot, it can be done. If the wave sound force is strong enough, over time, the caused vibration could become so large that it could break it. The same happens with words. Over time, if the meaning of the words you frequently hear are hurtful enough, they will break you to the point of no return.
Unfortunately, painful recollections of words are stored in your brain. It becomes a source of information tightly connected to your reality, playing an interesting role in the relationship between your body, mind, and self-. Hurtful words leave behind tremendous emotional and psychological.
The profound, near-total, or total impairment of one’s ability to perceive the effect of one’s verbal communication is what I call word-blindness, denoting a lack of awareness and discernment that hurtful words have in others.
Dr. Iberkis Faltas