Naked Emotional Intelligence

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Coping Mechanisms

In the below video, four generations of women explain their coping mechanisms. Your life might be scattered all over the place, but it is never too late to make it a whole. Sometimes, you sit around for hours to think about all the bad things that are happing to you right now and all the bad things that have happened to you that have left a mark on you. And that’s fine. It is totally okay. Those moments are called grieving. And you are grieving because your emotions are telling you that you have been treated unjustly. What happened to you was unfair and gave you many apprehensions that it’s really hard to walk away from—the anxiety. You might be feeling confused, yearning, dwelling on the past. I have been there so, I understand. I not only understand, but I also relate. I wish I could tell you that it will not hurt anymore. I wish I could tell you that the sense of loss, abandonment, angriness, and frustration will go away as soon as you get up from that chair because it won’t. But the naked truth is that you are not going to heal by just sitting there and thinking about it. Reliving the pain over and over and over is not going to make things any better. And no, there is not a magic pill that will help you forget everything. Whatever happened will be part of you for the rest of your life. There is no way around it. I am not going to lie to say it will not, just to make you feel better. Falling into depression, losing interest in everything, crying yourself to sleep, running away, kill yourself will not make things any better for you or anyone else that loves you. The only thing that will help you keep going is healing because it enables you to deal with the pain and frustration of the things you lost, the things that were taken away from you. Healing is reordering yourself as an individual, reordering your position in the universe, and learning yourself, your body-mind & spirit at deeper levels, balancing the things that matter to you with equal importance and value. To heal, you first need to accept what happened as an unfortunate experience. Why you? We will never know. But you will never be the person you were. You will become a better and bigger person now. Suffering is unpleasant. Sharing grief creates meaning and lets you know that you are not alone. Here are five steps to start your healing process.

Source: #motivation #grief #selfcare #confidence #empowerment #emotionalintelligence #generatio


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I am Dr. Iberkis Faltas, an author, a Doctor of Philosophy, an Emotional Intelligence Strategist, and a licensed Cosmetologist for over 30 years. I work for the Department of Homeland Security, Asylum, Refugee, and International Operations Directorate from Monday to Friday. For fun on the weekends, I work for Cinderella Bridez as a Master Bridal Artist. I write, cook, and practice mindfulness. I am a video creator. I love to travel the world. Please follow me on YouTube, Instagram, Facebook, and TikTok.

Soy la Dra. Iberkis Faltas, autora, Doctora en Filosofía, Estratega en Inteligencia Emocional y Cosmetóloga licenciada desde hace más de 30 años. Trabajo para el Departamento de Seguridad Nacional, Dirección de Asilo, Refugiados y Operaciones Internacionales, de lunes a viernes. Para divertirme los fines de semana, trabajo para Cinderella Bridez como Master Maquilladora de Novias. Escribo libros, cocino y practico mindfulness. Soy creadora de vídeos en line. Me encanta viajar por el mundo. Sígueme en YouTube, Instagram, Facebook y TikTok.

I wrote “Emotional Intelligence for Law Enforcement, Education, Management, and Leadership.” My book was featured in the New Yorker, as one of the books “aimed at more niche demographics” to learn emotional literacy and other emotional intelligence skills to those in position of power. Here is the link

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