One step at the time 🥰

In emotional intelligence, self-actualization is the willingness, the persistence and the effort that you put every day into something, it doesn’t have to be a huge step every day because know that life gets on the way, but at least a teeny-weeny effort, trying to improve yourself and engage in the pursuit your personal and professional goals, the pursuit of the things relevant and meaningful to you, something that will lead you to a more enjoyable life.  So, my friend, my question for is, what are you doing today that is going to make you better than yesterday? 

Find Your Comfortable Place

Sometimes, you might feel so down that you just feel like making an underground hole and walking yourself right into it.

And I get it.

I think it is safe to say that most of us have felt that way at least once in our lives’ journey. I certainly have. Many times. And I understand that bringing yourself up from a dark place could be challenging.

One thing that has helped me is taking my mind to a comfortable place, if at least for a day, or for a few minutes at a time. For me, one of those comfortable places is music. For my friend, it is a massage. For you, it could be emerging yourself in reading, meditation, yoga, etc. Something that would not harm you further. Doing something that can give you momentary relief always helps.

That is because the positive energy that those good things bring to your mind is controlled by you. That positive energy can give you an optimistic overview of a wish that aims to be soon fulfilled by you, solely under your control.

Be optimistic. Optimism lets you anticipate positive outcomes, whether short-term, either if serendipitously, or through perseverance and effort, helps. You can be confident that attaining the desired goals, even if a short-term goal always helps with your mental health. Small plans give you something tangible, solid, and relatively stable or situational without dependencies or limitations.

Always remember, it is OKAY to reach out and talk to someone if you still feel that you don’t have the emotional strength to bring yourself up.

Dr. Faltas

Resilience

Being resilient means that you can “lift yourself up,” “bounce back,” you are flexible, tough, adaptable, and somehow—obstinate.

It means that you can successfully adapt to difficult or challenging experiences, especially through mental, emotional, and behavioral flexibility, adjusting your physiological and psychological strength to any external and internal demands.

It means that you can adapt to adversities and engage with the world, using whatever coping strategies you can find on your way. Your skills help you with the positive adaptation, cultivation, and practice of psychological strength that help you to stand in the middle of a Huracan without being sucked up in the eye of the storm.

What resilient people do:
1. Prioritize, prioritize, and prioritize (e.g., work-life balance, relationships, hobbies, etc.)
2. Take care of their mind and body (healthy eating habits, exercise, sleep, practice mindfulness, meditation, yoga, etc.)
3. Stop overthinking the “what could have happened” or “what if…” because, in reality, those do not exist.
4. Avoid negative people—including co-workers or family members.
5. Be proactive
6. Be aware and accept your emotions (e.g., you have the right to be sad, happy, angry, content, disappointed, etc.)
6. Move toward your small goals first.
7. Practice self-discovering—you’ll be surprised to learn new things about yourself.
8. Keep things in a realistic perspective.
9. Embrace changes.
10. Embrace and accept bad experiences and learn from your mistake. Those will always be part of your life. Fighting back only hurts you more.
11. And last (at least for this post) but not least, REACH OUT to friends, family, or any help group. Open up. Talk about it. Write about it. Do anything you want but do not keep your feelings inside!!

Dr. Faltas