Don’t allow anyone to tell you who you should be. Don’t allow anyone to tell you should be someone else so they can be happy.
To be able to be happy, you must have your own life, your own wants, your own future, and your own INDEPENDENCE!
And the most important, you must love yourself!! embrace yourself for who you are!! and if someone struggle to except you, that is not your problem, that is someone else’s problem and they have to deal with it, not you.
Learn to love yourself and learn to be with yourself! you’re a great person inside and out! why not embracing who you are!
In the below video, four generations of women explain their coping mechanisms. Your life might be scattered all over the place, but it is never too late to make it a whole. Sometimes, you sit around for hours to think about all the bad things that are happing to you right now and all the bad things that have happened to you that have left a mark on you. And that’s fine. It is totally okay. Those moments are called grieving. And you are grieving because your emotions are telling you that you have been treated unjustly. What happened to you was unfair and gave you many apprehensions that it’s really hard to walk away from—the anxiety. You might be feeling confused, yearning, dwelling on the past. I have been there so, I understand. I not only understand, but I also relate. I wish I could tell you that it will not hurt anymore. I wish I could tell you that the sense of loss, abandonment, angriness, and frustration will go away as soon as you get up from that chair because it won’t. But the naked truth is that you are not going to heal by just sitting there and thinking about it. Reliving the pain over and over and over is not going to make things any better. And no, there is not a magic pill that will help you forget everything. Whatever happened will be part of you for the rest of your life. There is no way around it. I am not going to lie to say it will not, just to make you feel better. Falling into depression, losing interest in everything, crying yourself to sleep, running away, kill yourself will not make things any better for you or anyone else that loves you. The only thing that will help you keep going is healing because it enables you to deal with the pain and frustration of the things you lost, the things that were taken away from you. Healing is reordering yourself as an individual, reordering your position in the universe, and learning yourself, your body-mind & spirit at deeper levels, balancing the things that matter to you with equal importance and value. To heal, you first need to accept what happened as an unfortunate experience. Why you? We will never know. But you will never be the person you were. You will become a better and bigger person now. Suffering is unpleasant. Sharing grief creates meaning and lets you know that you are not alone. Here are five steps to start your healing process.
Focusing 24/7 on a wish you struggle to fulfill can give you anxiety and mixed emotions that can quickly get out of control, making you feel threatened, dread, and apprehensive, which for the most part are accompanied by somatic symptoms of tension, usually precipitated by a threatening situation. That is not healthy for you. While you should pursue your dreams, you can’t forget about living, so you can enjoy those dreams when the time comes. Be patient and enjoy every single moment of the ride.